Matt said it was okay to blog this. I don’t normally go public with “hey look someone said something nice about my work!” but I was feeling down and this brightened my day, so I’m sharing it.
Re: Pornography Is Not the Decider
As always, great column. The timing on this one happened to be
perfect [...]

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Hey look! Another column! This one’s a profile of some cool folks doing cool things:
Wired News: Animated Porn Makes Moves
Imagine what you could do with erotic entertainment if you weren’t bound by the laws of physics or 18 U.S.C. 2257.
By physics, of course, I mean the limitations of gravity, proportion, body mass. And by 18 [...]

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I didn’t do a podcast this week due to Thanksgiving holidays, but here’s the column:
Wired News: Check Your Judgments, Eh?
CALGARY, Alberta — You’ve heard people say that if you wouldn’t want your boss, your spouse or your mother to know what you’re doing online, you shouldn’t be doing it. Or that you should consider what [...]

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A serious topic this week, but one with a hopeful bent: a new site makes it easy to get screened for sexually transmitted infections — and to share your negative results with potential lovers, or to get personal attention and references if you have a positive test result:
Wired News: Stop Sex Infections the Smart Way
In [...]

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Wired News: Scheduling Sex Is Sizzling Hot
Considering how much finagling and finessing people will do to make time for an online lover, it surprises me when I talk to people who dislike the idea of scheduling sex in offline relationships.
In fact, scheduling sex — not just time to be together with the understanding that sex [...]

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Pose Like the Star You Are
Do you play on webcam? Do you want to? Read this first.

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Wired News: Sex, Lies and Cyberspace
I’ve been away from home for almost a month, so I didn’t know until this week that the September issue of O, The Oprah Magazine includes an investigative piece about, well, investigations. Specifically, using keystroke loggers and other snooping software to gather evidence of infidelity.
Whether such spousal spying is ethical [...]

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Wired News: God Bless This Lube
I have gathered my myrrh with my spice;
I have eaten my honeycomb with my honey
Christians sometimes get a bad rap in sex-positive writing. Some of them deserve it, considering how loudly they protest the existence of any type of sex-tech, from vibrators to online pornography to the Plan B emergency [...]

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Wired News: Lifelong Effects of Cybersex
Ten years ago I outlined a script for a porn movie, before I realized how few adult movies actually have scripts. Besides, in my vision, My Life as Aphrodite was an independent erotic film exploring sexual awakening, identity, power, fantasy and healing. Hence, a script.
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New Column:What You Don’t Know Can Kill
One of the classic rules of fiction analysis is not to confuse the author with the narrator or the characters in her story.
At 19, I took my first college-level fiction writing workshop. If you’ve ever attended a college writing class, you know what most of the students produce. Angsty, [...]

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This week’s column:
Real Sex, Virtual Worlds
And the podcast:
Excerpts from interviews

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New column up today:
The Myth of Cybersexual Losers
I estimate that I’ve been online at least 40,150 hours since 1996. That’s a conservative estimate but I don’t want to over-share. Ahem.
I’ve known a lot of people who spend more time online than they expected to. I’ve met people who have fallen into robust online lives at [...]

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Groovin’

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I hate going to my column on Friday and finding things wrong. This week, the photo gallery I spent a couple of hours assembling, writing captions for, getting permissions for photos I didn’t take myself, etc, is not showing up with the column. I’m certain it’s a matter of understaffing and overworking at Wired News, [...]

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Wired News: A Burning Need for More Porn
If you could buy a porn video, download it in about an hour and burn it to a DVD that will play in any standard drive, would you do it? What if it had built-in digital rights management (DRM) code that only let you burn the file to [...]

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