As if I needed any more proof that Lyle and I are right for each other:
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In our modern world, what constitutes a thank-you note? Being able to dash off a text message has enabled me to be more immediate and less guilty. I believe the old adage that the sooner you write a thank-you note, the less you need to write. I realize that among real sticklers for manners, e-mails and texts would be verboten, but I think they can convey genuine sentiment.
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/swoon
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1 Christopher // Feb 27, 2008 at 2:36 am
My only mild critique is that I’ve never been to Texas, and yet those are my rules, too.
I’d add these:
Curb the profanity, unless you’re in bed, and (AND) she’s into it.
Potty mouthing indicates nothing but a lack of imagination.
If you pick the movie/eatery/social event, and it hasn’t been discussed, make sure to consult.
Assume she’s a lady, unless conclusively proven otherwise.
Women (to guys) will almost always seem more assured then men. Remember, she may be just as lost as you.
This is only partial. When in doubt, treat her at least as well as you’d like to be treated. At least.
chris
2 Xylitol // Feb 27, 2008 at 12:56 pm
I’ve have major problems with the getting up at the table part. My mom was a chef (and often also manner coach, as in pro) and my dad was a CEO. Lots of formal functions. Ingrained doesn’t begin to describe my reflex when my lady stands up to instantly do the same. Table at McDs with ketchup all over my shirt? Still, it’s just what you do. My wife hates that - raised basically redneck - and at first I thought it was a trick - you say I don’t but you really want me to, I just know it in my bones. But she really doesn’t. I finally tried not to when she literally started turning red when I did and giving speeches prior to getting up like “Ok, I’m standing up now. To go to the bathroom. Calm down. Listen carefully. When I stand up don’t, and I repeat, DON’T stand up yourself. I mean it. No jive, *just* *fucking* *don’t*. As a favor to me. It creeps the hell out of me”. I still do sometimes, hard habit to break. But not always.